Have you ever considered that it’s actually kind of wrong-headed to desire what’s “fair?” What is “fair” anyway? “Fair” is what we say when we compare ourselves to others. A child attending a birthday party might cry out: “He got that, so I should too…it’s fair!” On the flip side, he might cry “He got that but I didn’t…it’s not fair!”

And don’t think it’s an attitude limited to children: “How ‘come he gets to take a vacation while I’m stuck here working 9-to-5 every day…it’s not fair!” Or maybe it’s “Why does he get an A on the test when I studied twice as hard…it’s not fair!” Have you ever been in line at Chic-Fil-A and had someone cut you off. “Darn it lady I want my chicken salad sammich, I was here first, I should get to order first. It’s only fair.”

And so on.

Should Christians really be in the business of trying to sort out what is “fair” or “unfair” to us? God doesn’t compare us to others; He deals with each of us individually.  There is no “fair” in that sense. There is only the life we have with God. He causes the rain to fall on the just and the unjust (Matthew 5:45), so instead of worrying how this or that in life affects you, just let God control your life. Listen to Paul:

Not that I speak in respect of want: for I have learned, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content.
I know both how to be abased, and I know how to abound: every where and in all things I am instructed both to be full and to be hungry, both to abound and to suffer need.
I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.

Philippians 4:11-13

Practice Paul’s words and then, whatever happens, you won’t have to worry about what is “fair for you” you will only have to worry about doing “right for Him.”